POP This! – The Peer Educators were asked, what advice would you give someone who feels pressured to have sex with their partner just because of the holiday? Or what advice would you give someone who is single and feeling lonely on this day?
As most may know, Valentine’s Day is [here]. So, everywhere you go all you see is red hearts, candy, teddy bears, etc. Some associate this holiday with love and happiness. For others, it is a reminder that they’re single and alone. However, don’t let this day make you feel down and out. Instead of dwelling on being lonely, do activities that make you happy. This particular day is not just about romantic relationships. Go out or stay in with your friends/family and just have a good time. If you still feel sad about being single, just remember Valentine’s Day is only 24 hours, it’ll be over soon. You are all Kings and Queens regardless your relationship status!
P.S. The right person is out there, just be patient.
~~Breanna
To all my single ladies and men out there, don’t feel alone or sad on Valentine’s Day because you are loved every day. You can treat yourself to something nice like a movie or something fun to lift your spirit. Personally, being single is fun because you can do you as you please and show yourself some love! Just remember that if you’re feeling lonely call a loved one on Valentine’s Day and tell them how you feel about them I guarantee it will make their day!
~~De’Brae
One Word, Four letters… DON’T!
Valentine’s Day is one day out of the year when couples or just two people who are simply interested in each other choose to show their exaggerated version of the affection they have for each other. This day is no different from any other day out of year except for the fact that your partner is gifting you fifty dollar bears, treating you to expensive dinners, or even a nice piece of jewelry. One day out of the year should not make you feel obligated to do anything that you are not comfortable with. If your partner really respect
s you he or she will not care if you sleep with them today, tomorrow, two months from now or even in a year. But if you do choose to sleep with your partner on Valentine’s Day what really matters is that you are comfortable and you trust your partner enough to share that intimate moment with them.
~~Blessen
But my advice to someone who feels pressured to have sex with their partner on this holiday would be to find a fun but still intimate alternative to sex such as cuddling together and watching a movie or maybe taking a dance class together. Find something engaging and creative that you two can do together while still protecting your personal boundaries.
My advice to single people on this holiday who feel lonely would be to treat yourself to a nice date or just some alone time. Do something for yourself that makes you happy. Maybe round up a group of some of your other single friends and find an art class or a concert to go to! Make Valentine’s Day yours!
~~Khaya
Love this article. The pressure to prove you live someone shouldnt be about sex. I hope people take the advice your peer educators provided. Love yourself enough not to give into the pressure of having sex.
Also, love yourself enough not feel like you have to have a partner on Valentine’s day. Being single can be great, even on Valentine’s Day.
Love yourself!