We explored how sex changes relationships but when I saw Buzzfeed’s “What I Wish Someone Told Me About Having Sex” by Daysha Edewi I realized that there are lasting impacts of sex that are rarely talked about.
Sex is physical but very emotional.
We warn about the consequences of unprotected sex but there are emotional scars that are often overlooked.
People love to talk about how to avoid STI’s of the physical kind,
but nobody likes to talk about the STI’s that can destroy your mind.
The ones that can have you tossing and turning at 3 am,
racking your brain, and constantly wondering “was I not good enough for him?”
“Was this just supposed to be a one time thing?”
Or my favorite one, “how could I be so stupid enough to let him in?”
We question and blame ourselves way too much about why someone stops calling or texting. You go from getting “good morning” texts every day to nothing at all. You also go from feeling special to feeling invisible in a matter of days.
The emotional toll is exhausting and it hurts. It hurts to sit there and think about a person who may not be thinking of you. You may go through depression and many sleeplessness nights thinking about every scenario that happened with that relationship.
What I got out of this video is that there are people who beat themselves up so bad that we forget that we need to love ourselves first. We have to know that we are special with or without that person in our lives. We can reflect about what we learned from that relationship and, in that reflection, we learn how to cope if or when this happens again.
I guess I just wish that we had used
both mental and physical protection,
and taken the time to have a conversation
about what this all really meant
before we had sex.
So just take one more scoop of ice cream, go take a shower, let the light in and go outside to get some fresh air. Whether you broke up with your partner or the relationship didn’t really have that closure you may have wanted, you will get through this!
What I Wish Someone Told Me About Having Sex
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So very true. So glad you addressed the emotional impact!
Thank you!